A 4:00 wedding does not mean arriving at 4:00. Guests are expected to be seated before the ceremony starts. The afternoon in front of that (getting ready, the drive, parking in a field, finding the right garden) runs close to three hours. Ready Time works backward from the ceremony so your afternoon has a timeline alongside the couple's.
Shower, hair, the outfit that needed steaming yesterday, the card you meant to write ahead of time and are now writing in the car. Then a drive to a venue you've never been to, parking in a field, and a walk to whichever garden the ceremony is actually in. Every step is short. Stacked together they take nearly three hours, and the couple's timeline won't wait. You and whoever you're going with can share the plan, so you're both working back from the same ceremony time.
The unwritten rule: the time on the invitation is when the ceremony starts, and guests should be seated before it does. Ready Time counts backward from the ceremony through getting ready, the drive, parking, the walk, and the hellos, and tells you when the shower has to start. Being the last guest to sit before the music starts is still on time. Walking in after the processional has begun is harder on everyone.
The drive above is a starting number. In the app, pick the real place, choose drive, walk, or bike, and Apple Maps fills in how long it takes.
Change where you're leaving from or how you're getting there, and every step before the drive shifts with it.
A common convention is 15 to 30 minutes before the invitation time: enough to park, find the ceremony site, sign the guest book, and sit. Lean toward 30 for large venues, shuttles, or a city you don't know; the plan above budgets closer to 35 for exactly those reasons. The invitation time itself marks the start of the ceremony, so treat it as your deadline rather than your arrival window.
For most guests, yes. Shower, hair, and a pressed outfit fit comfortably in about two hours. Add more if you're doing full hair and makeup or wrangling kids into formalwear. Travel and parking are what usually blow the budget, so give those their own time instead of borrowing from getting ready.
Get a nudge at the right moment, while there's still time to act.
Each step gets its own alert, so you know what's next and how long you have.
“It has helped me tremendously to manage my timeblindness, and I tell people about it all the time.”Ready Time user, 2021